Going through a divorce is difficult enough without having to figure out a whole new parenting paradigm on top of it. But with some planning and communication, you can make co-parenting work smoothly for both you and your kids while still following child custody law.

1. Agreeing on a Physical Custody Schedule

One of the first things you’ll need to figure out after your divorce is a physical custody schedule. This details when your child will be with each parent. When making this schedule, focus on consistency and minimizing transitions for your kids. Week-on and week-off schedules are common for school-aged kids. You may split holidays or vacation time as well. Documenting details formally per your state’s child custody laws helps avoid future confusion.

2. Communication Is Key

Frequent communication with your ex is essential when co-parenting after divorce. Set up recurring check-ins to discuss things like your child’s schedule, health, schooling, activities, and emotional well-being. Be transparent about any changes or issues that come up. Tools can facilitate documentation. The goal should be presenting a united front to your kids. This provides stability when everything else is shifting.

3. Compromise Makes Things Easier

You and your ex likely have some differing opinions on rules, discipline, lifestyle choices, and more. However, meeting each other halfway is important for effective co-parenting. Maybe you feel stricter bedtimes are needed while your ex prefers more flexibility. Can you find a compromise, like setting a consistent school night bedtime? Making concessions where possible helps you avoid constant conflicts.

4. Support Your Kids Through Changes

A divorce represents a massive change for kids that can impact their behavior and emotional state. Provide lots of reassurance that you both still love them. Encourage open dialogue about any struggles they have with the new setup. Consider professional counseling if you feel they need help coping. Reinforce that the divorce wasn’t their fault and that this is simply a new way of parenting together, with their best interest at heart.

Staying patient and focusing on your child’s well-being makes the transition smoother. With some work, you can establish a co-parenting rhythm that functions well for everyone. According to Forbes, 6% of divorced couples get remarried to each other. Whether or not this might be the case for you, if you have questions about child custody law, reach out to Flynn Law today for a consultation.